Lara and Charles and their daughters, Colette and Florence, live in Tamworth, NSW. They moved into their house twelve months ago, and since then Lara has been busy transforming the half-acre block into a beautiful, productive space. I sat down to chat with Lara late last year. I found talking to her completely inspiring. And I hope this interview inspires you to get out and grow something with your kids.
On Country Living
Tamworth is sort of in a valley, with a big river that runs through it. It’s sparse land, with lots of gumtrees.
We are surrounded by hills that block us from any kind of changeable weather. So it’s very dry and hot, a lot of the time. And then winter is very cold. And we don’t have an autumn, and we don’t have a spring.
We live just out of town on a half-acre block. The block has a big park behind it, which is a few acres, of grass and gumtrees and quite a few of our friends back onto the same park.
We’ve all got back gates so the kids head out there and run around. There’s a playground too. Most of the kids are a bit older, so Colette sort of tags along. She loves it
On Growing up in Sydney
I feel like I did have that more free childhood in Sydney. I remember running around the bush in Epping. We’d go bike riding and meet friends who lived nearby.
I think back and think about what we did, and it may have been a bit dangerous. We didn’t have phones, and our parents didn’t know where we were. But they knew we’d come back eventually. And I’m really glad we had that freedom. My hope is the girls can have that same sort of experience.
My mum was a pretty keen gardener. I guess I grew up always wanting to give it a go. I wanted to grow veggies, I wanted to have chooks. When we got our first few rentals, I just pottered about trying to plant things. By the time we were looking to buy a house I remember saying to Charles, ‘I just want a garden’, I didn’t really care what the house was like, ‘Just buy me a garden.’ I said.
On Gardening with Kids
There’s definitely a stage when they were tiny when I didn’t do much gardening. But now that Flo is up and walking, it’s easy to get out with both of them. And they love it. They get dirty and go and talk to the chickens.
At the moment (because of the drought) they spend two hours most days helping me water by hand. You might think that would be boring, but they fight over who gets to hold the watering can.
I have had to learn to let them help in ways that aren’t helpful. If we’re in the veggie garden, they go and pick peas. They did they have a period where they went and pulled out seedlings. Colette insists on giving the chickens the spring onions. I don’t know why, there’s so many things in the garden she could pick. I used to get really annoyed but then I realised she’s interacting and she’s recognised that plant and she wants to feed the chickens. It’s a bit weird, I don’t know if they even eat them, but it’s part of her contribution. And now she’s quite protective. If someone walks through a garden bed, she’ll yell ‘Get out of my mummy’s garden’.
Sometimes I have a cranky baby who just wants to be picked up.
But I work around that. I got a one-handed wheelbarrow for my birthday. I said to Charles, that’s what I want because I am always carrying a baby or a child. And he went to Bunnings, and he said ‘My wife wants this wheelbarrow you can drag behind you.’ And they were sort of saying it was a weight thing, like women needed a lighter wheelbarrow. But it’s not, it’s because I have a baby in the other arm.
On Plants, Bugs and Tree-houses
Colette is learning to recognise different plants—she points to the broccoli and peas, the strawberries and berries. At the moment she calls all the rest flowers. Except for the roses, I got quite into roses. And I bought one, a David Austin variety, called ‘Charles’. I told her that ‘This is a rose that has the same name as Daddy’. So then she went round- and she named all the other roses and said there was a Collette-rose and a Flo-rose and a Mummy-rose.
Colette gets excited when she finds a worm. She learnt that they’re good. Butterflies and bees too, she’s really into bees. And if I find a big spider, I’ll show her. There’s a nice overlap with Peter Rabbit books, which they love. I think we pulled out a turnip, and I hadn’t told her it was a turnip, but she knew what it was because of Peter Rabbit.
I used to make my own tree-houses when I was a kid. I used to go and get timber out of the shed and nail it into trees. Now I’m building them again for the girls. I’m hoping to inspire them.
We had this palette made up when we moved, so I just put it in the tree. And of course, Flo kept climbing up there, and she’s only little, so we put some sides on it. Which is better, but I do still have an 18- month-old six foot high in a tree.
But she seems to understand. We’re ok with them taking risks. Before we put the sides on, she’d climb to the top step and then yell out. I think that was her way of letting us know where she was. We’ve always done things differently. Like when she got to the age where she started climbing on the table, we sort of let her do it because she needs to know how to get down. Because she’s going to do it at that moment you’re not there, when you’re in the shower, so she needs to know how to get down.
On Outdoor Snacks
Usually, when they’re hungry, I’m out in the garden too busy. So Colette just goes inside and brings out two apples. They’re allowed to help themselves to fruit. I don’t chop it up or anything. If it falls on the ground they pick it up again a few times before it goes to the chooks.
On Surviving the Heat
I struggle in the summer. I do love it in terms of gardening. But here in summer, you get to ten o’clock, and between ten and five, it’s really hot. And it doesn’t cool down. You don’t get an afternoon breeze. Four or five o’clock is the hottest part of the day.
So for that reason, we’re currently putting in a pool. That’s survival for me with being home with the girls.
It’s pretty dry here now. Most farmers or people on the land just have no stock. I get truckloads of horse poo for the garden, and the girl I get that from said she had to give away ten thousand dollars worth of horses because she just can’t feed them. So, it’s all a bit sad.
Living here you’re sort of more aware of what’s happening. We always thought we’d want to live on a farm or have a property, but I’ve got our half-acre block, and I’m glad this is all I have to look after.
This is the worst drought in a very long time. The last time it rained properly was when one of my friend’s babies was born. That was four years ago. There was a little bit of rain and storm around Christmas last year and Colette had never really seen rain or a storm. There’s a whole generation of kids who just don’t know what rain is.
On Precious Resources
The kids love to play with water. And quite often they’ll want to play with water, and I’ll have to say—no, there is none. They’ll be no water for the garden until I do some washing. If you want water for the sandpit, you can have one bucket, and you can’t have any more after that. Which as a child is so different than it was for me. When I was a child, water came out of a tap.
That’s a big thing. And we’ve just this week got two new tanks. We’ve just bought two new tanks, which we’ll have to buy water to fill up. Which I didn’t realise was a thing. I thought you got water tanks and then it rained. We have town water but (because of water restrictions) we can’t use it outside.
We have a granny flat with a big bath so at the moment, while it’s bad, we all have our bath and shower in there. Then I keep that water overnight and then go and get it in the morning, to use on the garden.
I had family up to stay with us last week. And you notice when someone is running the tap to wait for the water to heat up or to wash a knife. It takes all your strength not to go over and just turn it off. If we do that, we’ll put a container underneath, and that will go out on the garden. It’s a real mindset thing.
On Connection to the Earth
The girls know that they can go out to the backyard to get food. They know where it comes from. Colette walked around with a packet of pumpkin seeds the other day, and God knows where she put them. I told myself, 'its ok because she’s interested and she’s learning'.
They love the eggs too. We have eight chooks and a rooster at the moment, and we raised them from chicks. They go down and talk to them and feed them and collect the eggs.
They know their scraps go in the compost or to the chooks. I couldn’t imagine not having chooks, especially with kids, the amount of food waste you have.
On the Benefits of Outdoor Play
We all climb the walls if we don’t get outside. My girls have always slept well, and I think that’s because I’ve always had the aim of just wearing them out. They’re a lot calmer because they have the time outside to run wild.
We still use TV when we need to. But when they wake up they often just potter out to the garden and start doing something. They fall over and climb trees. They get muddy, and I have a lot of washing, but that helps me (so I have more greywater to use on the garden). Flo often stays in her pyjamas, barefoot out on the bark.
On Happy Kids
We eat all our meals outside when the weather’s good. When we’re sitting inside its so much more stressful because they don’t want to sit still, they want to run off. But outside, they are happy.
We built a big sandpit for the girls. I was inspired by Sophie Thomson, she has a chapter (about gardening with kids) in her book Sophie’s Patch. She says if you have a sandpit that can fit five or six kids in it, that’s where they will actually play. I can be out watering the garden, and they’ll just play out here for ages.
Thankfully since we spoke, Tamworth has had some much needed rain. Check out Lara's Instagram for adorable shots of her kiddos playing the puddles and plenty of garden inspiration @lilyrose_backyard.
I’d been a mum for six days when my sister in law walked through our front door, a one-year-old on her hip and her other hand full of garbage bags. Her husband followed her in, carrying a baby bath, a bumbo and a bouncer.
The bags and baby items were for us. It was all the things my nephew no longer needed.
We thanked them for their generosity. But after, when I tried to find room for the things in our cupboard, I felt anxious.
I’d anticipated that in the weeks after our baby was born, we’d be given cards, flowers and gifts. I knew that babies needed clothes, nappies, a cot and maybe a few toys. But the sheer amount of baby stuff accumulating in the tiny spare room of our house shocked me.
Australian families spend thousands in the first year of their baby’s life. Which means the market for baby products is big business.
And a lot of what is sold to new parents is for baby play. And the gear isn’t cheap. But it comes with the promise that it will support a child’s learning and development.
‘Captivate and cultivate your babies curiosity’ urges the description on the Baby Einstein Neighbourhood Friends Activity Jumper. A $189 contraption that promises to develop your child’s leg muscles, hand-eye coordination and even increase their ‘appreciation of music’.
But is this true? Do babies need noisy swings and a lounge room full of plastic toys to help them grow up clever and strong?
The answer is a resounding no.
Instead, babies need only four things for play, learning and development— and you likely have all of them already.
Here’s my list:
1. Somewhere to lie
Since the early 1990s health professionals across the world have recommended, babies sleep on their backs to reduce the risk of SIDS. The recommendations have been hugely successful in reducing the incidents of SIDS. However, to balance all the back sleeping, babies need to spend awake time playing on their tummies.
Tummy time develops the muscles in a babies shoulders, neck, back and arms. It promotes the kind of movements that support babies in becoming mobile. And it reduces the risk of babies developing plagiocephaly or flat head syndrome.
So babies need somewhere comfortable to lie. And in this case, simplicity is key. Many of the commercial baby mats hang toys from a frame above the baby, which encourages a baby to lie on their back looking up, the opposite of what they need.
A plain sheepskin or soft mat is better for tummy time. A picnic rug or beach towel means your baby can play outside too.
2. Someone to look at
Despite the catalogue claims, it isn’t fancy toys that help babies learn.
Babies do learn through play. But the best kind of play happens with a real-life human.
Like learning language, which is all about relationship, connection. It’s about inviting babies into the back and forth of communication. Something that can’t be replicated by any battery-operated toy.
3. Something to share
If you could buy only one item, to support your babies learning and development, it would be hard to go past a book.
Books are small, beautiful and inexpensive. And a 2015 study found that books facilitated more parent-to-child interaction than both electronic baby toys and traditional toys.
But books alone aren’t magic. Instead, it’s the sharing they facilitate. And that kind of sharing can be replicated across a whole range of activities.
If you love to surf, you can take your baby to the beach and dip her toes in the ocean. If you like to cook, you can set your baby on the kitchen floor with an upturned pot and a wooden spoon. A bowl of lemons from the garden make a wonderful toy, as does the washing basket and the pegs.
In the 1940s British Early Childhood educator Elinor Goldschmied pioneered the idea of giving babies who are sitting up a ‘treasure basket’ of everyday household items, a soft brush, a natural sponge, a rolling pin, to play with and explore. The idea being that simple, natural things provide the best opportunities for discovery. And babies don’t need flashy, plastic toys.
4. Somewhere to explore
Take a walk through a baby store, and you’ll notice that many of the products on sale are designed to do the same thing, contain your baby.
Bouncers, playpens, capsules, swings and activity centres all work to keep the baby in one spot.
However, for healthy growth and development, babies need the opposite. The best thing for babies is to move.
Kicking, rolling, crawling and cruising are essential activities. And time spent engaged in these activities builds the muscle strength and balance necessary for healthy development.
Babies can explore all the corners of your house, and they likely will. But they also like to go outside. Outdoors they can crawl on the grass, kick in the sand or pull themselves to standing with the help of a driftwood log. And it’s never to early to take your baby outside to explore.
It’s been six years since my sister in law gave me the bags of baby stuff. And three months ago we had our third baby, a little girl.
This time around, I’ve been confident to say no to the offers of baby swings, capsules and colourful toys.
Our baby gear is simple. We have a rug on the floor, a pram, an inward-facing baby carrier, a bassinet where she sleeps and one shelf of clothes and nappies.
For entertainment, she talks to her brother and sings with her sister. And when she’s had enough of being on the floor, she finds her way into our arms. Then we take her out and show her the magnolia tree that’s bursting with pale pink blooms, the chickens who scratch under our apple trees.
And I hope that she will grow up captivated by this wonderful earth, know the joy of spending time outside in it, and understand most of what truly matters in life—can’t be bought at a store.
Experts recommend children spend 2-3 hours outside each day—here’s how you can make it happen each week for your kids
In 2010 when American Paediatricians met for their annual conference, there was something surprising about the keynote speaker.
He wasn’t a doctor.
Instead the person who spoke to the room of medical experts was journalist and author, Richard Louv.
What did doctors need to learn from a journalist?
He was there the argue that a global decline in childhood health—a rise in obesity, attention-deficit disorders and mental health issues—could in part be explained by a lack of connection to the natural world.
Louv’s message was initially published in 2005 in his best selling book Last Child in the Woods. And it’s a message that has reverberated across the globe.
In the decade since, professionals have embraced the idea that encouraging families to go outside and play, is key to promoting childhood health and wellbeing.
GP’s have started handing out prescriptions for green time. Government’s have funded organisations to promote nature play.
Early childhood educators, many of whom have long believed in the importance of connecting children to the natural world, now meet for conferences all over the world discussing nature pedagogy— an approach to learning that is grounded in the outdoor experience.
Even optometrists have joined the cause, as a result of Australian research that found time spent outdoors helped children’s eyes develop and could offer some protection to children from the increasingly common diagnoses of myopia.
Yet for parents, getting their children outside each day remains a challenge. Kids don’t congregate in the local street to play each afternoon any more. And it’s hard to find other parents who want to go to the park on a wet afternoon.
Many of today’s parents didn’t form a connection to the natural world in their own childhood. And even if they did, it’s hard to prioritise the time to get out daily. No matter where you, live society has shifted. We walk less and drive our cars more, we’re more likely to work indoors, and shop indoors too.
Which leaves many of us wondering if it’s even possible, to get our kids off screens and outside to play each day?
As a mum, I had felt this. It was that question that motivated me to set a goal for my family, in a project we called ‘Our Year Outdoors.’ The aim was to spend three hours outside a day, for a year and work out if it was possible.
To my surprise, it was. It wasn’t easy, but it was amazing. And now I’m passionate about sharing some of what I’ve learnt, getting our children outside has amazing benefits- and it only takes a few changes to make it happen.
Here’s some of the ways I make sure my kids get the recommended outdoor time each week, now that they are six and four.
I plan it. Even today, three years since our project, I still take the time to plan blocks of outdoor time in our week. A bike ride, a trip to the beach—these things go on the calendar and are treated like an appointment.
In the cooler months I use a weather app to check the forecast and plan activities when the weather is best, but regardless, writing it down makes it much more likely to happen.
I look for opportunities to swap indoor activities for outdoor ones. I’ve learnt there is a lot of things that can be done outside. We can buy groceries outside at our local farmer’s markets, we can cook dinner on a camp fire or on the BBQs at the local park, we can eat breakfast on the balcony.
Just last week I learnt that my local corner store is open late most nights. So I’ve committed to not driving to the shops, if I’m only grabbing a few things. Instead the kids get on their scooters and we walk.
We also don’t do it alone. We are part of a collective of families that meet outside each week. We’ve signed the kids up for outdoor co-curricular activities, things like nippers and soccer, that get us outside each weekend with others.
And during the holidays we make sure to invite a few friends to the park with us for a play. Having friends to share the outdoors with makes it more enjoyable for all of us.
We’re also careful with the things we buy for our kids. Having less inside has been a key to making outdoor play more appealing. We’ve simplified their toys to little more than lego, blocks, dolls, books and art supplies. And instead we’ve invested in good quality rain gear, beanies, bikes, scooters, buckets and spades.
And we’re careful about screen time. In the past I used to turn the TV on when the kids were getting too loud, arguing too much or being too wild, now I take those signs as a cue, to open the door and send them outside to play.
Last week it was to the sea, at 4 p.m. on a cold winter’s afternoon. Inside there had been tears, arguments and the stomping of four year old feet. Outside they collected shells and scrambled over grey rocks looking for treasure.
There’s a photo my husband took of the two of them in their thick winter jackets, lifting a wet log together, neither bothered by the temperature of the icy water or the darkening sky.
Looking at it reminds me of a quote from Louv’s book,
‘Unlike television, nature does not steal time; it amplifies it.’
I was sitting in the bank waiting for the teller to call my number. We’d been there at least five minutes, and my two-year-old was bored. So I took out my phone and handed him Peppa Pig.
The man sitting beside me smiled, ’We didn’t have those when my boys were little,’ he said.
It wasn’t a criticism, just a friendly comment.
But I took it as a reminder. There are other ways to keep a child entertained.
And while there are reasons we often reach for the device first (we usually always have one, we know they work) they may not be the best choice for our children.
And here’s why:
Screens don’t provide an opportunity for language development. They are one-sided. They talk to the child, but they don’t give the child a chance to talk back.
Cartoon pigs also keep children perfectly still, which is the opposite of what they need for healthy development.
Finally, screens distract our children from the business of play. Part of the reason a toddler gets in trouble in the bank is they want to play with everything. They want to climb under the chairs and draw with the pens for writing cheques. And that play, which engages a child imagination and thinking is good for their brains.
When we give a child a screen, we shut off that process of learning.
But if not a screen then what? What can we pack to keep our children quiet and calm in the bank, at the cafe or in the doctors waiting room?
1. A Picture Book
Unlike a device, a book offers two-way communication. It encourages the child and parent to have a conversation. A high-quality picture book can facilitate hours of discussion. And books are like magic—they keep even the loudest children quiet.
2. A Ball
Who said you had to sit in a waiting room? If it’s not busy, there’s no reason you can’t find a corner and roll a ball together. Or maybe there’s a little patch of grass outside Dad’s work and those five minutes waiting for him to come out can become time for catching practice.
3. Coloured Pencils and Paper
Children love to draw and make marks on paper, and this activity helps them develop the skills they need to learn to read and write. Toddlers tend to do better with thicker crayons and pencils, but if you have a few in your bag, you’ll always have something for them to do.
4. A Soft Toy and a Muslin Wrap
Most of us have too many of these items at home. But one of each is a great thing to pack in the nappy bag. Children love wrapping and carrying their ‘baby’, a lovely quiet game that helps to develop a child’s language and empathy.
5. A Small Car (or Three)
A little collection of cars in a canvas bag provides hours of fun. Every place you visit is a new place to explore. There are patterns on the carpet and chairs to drive underneath. And another child might join in with this play, which will make it even more fun.
5. A Hat
Once you notice it, there is nature everywhere. There are grassy hills to roll down, fountains with water to splash in and trees dropping colourful leaves. If you have some simple sun protection, there is never a reason not to stop for a few minutes and play outside.
And sometimes a ten minute run around outside will help give your child exactly what they need to handle the wait in the bank.
I wish I could find that Dad and thank him for his comment. It’s changed the way I parent.
I now view those moments of boredom as opportunities—little snippets in our day for play, fun and connection.
Not worth giving up.
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My mum calls it the celebratory cup of tea. It’s the one you drink at the end of the day when the kids are in bed. Maybe for you, it’s a glass of wine or some ice-cream. But if you’re a parent, I’m pretty sure you know the moment.
The way the house is so quiet and calm, when they're finally asleep.
And yet the hours before bed can be anything but peaceful. It can feel like everyone is tired, but no one will go to bed.
It used to be like this in our house.
I’d put the kids into bed, but that was just the start.
My son wanted another story, a chat with Dad, a glass of water.
My daughter needed someone to lie with her, and at one stage, give her a foot massage as well.
It was exhausting.
It wasn’t uncommon for it to take an hour for my children to become calm enough to fall asleep.
And then something changed.
In May 2016, we made a decision. We decided for one year to take our children outside to play, every single day. And not long after they started doing something we’d never seen before—asking to go to bed.
My son would ask during dinner,
‘I’m tired. I’m ready for bed now.’ He’d say.
My daughter was only 18 months old, and one night, she fell asleep in her highchair, her hands still sticky with rice and vegetables.
Before Our Year Outdoors, they would play and muck around during story time. But after, they were different. They’d curl up beside me, quiet and calm. Once I’d tucked them into bed, I wouldn’t hear another peep.
It completely changed our evenings. I stopped dreading bedtime.
I could plan to do work or catch up with a friend at night, confident my kids would be asleep by seven.
If you'd asked me what changed, this is what I’d say. All the active outdoor play— the running, jumping and climbing made their bodies very tired. And tired bodies became heavy, like a weight which held my children down and kept them calm and quiet.
And research supports this connection, between what our children do in the day, and how they fall asleep at night.
In 2015 a small Australian study found that reducing screen time and increasing outdoor play could improve children’s sleep.
A study of adults from the University of Groningen found that exposure to light in the daytime contributed to both the quantity and quality of sleep.
Scientists think this is because of the way bright light helps establish our circadian rhythms, the internal messaging that tells our bodies when to sleep.
The truth is, most of us don't notice how much of the day we spend indoors. Or how we aren’t moving our bodies as much as we should. And that may be part of the reason our children struggle to go to sleep at night.
For our family, playing outside every day has made a huge difference.
Bedtime is no longer a battle.
Instead, for my children, it’s a natural rhythm—a peaceful end to our bright and beautiful days.
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In many parts of the world, summer is synonymous with holidays and hours of uninterrupted outdoor play. We read about summer time in books and watch movies where children spend all day riding bikes and swimming in clear lakes. But in Australia summer is different. Australia is a country of extremes. And it’s rarely more extreme than in the summer months when temperatures in parts of the country push 45 degrees celsius.
So if you’re a parent with young children and you want your child to have an active, outdoor life, what can you do? How can you survive the heat with kids?
Before we answer the question, we need to change our mindset. While summer might be the best time for outdoor play in places like North America and Scandinavia, in Australia it is our most tricky season. We’re not likely to be kept inside by snow days or blizzards, but there will be times when hot weather, dangerous conditions and high UV levels force our kids inside, and that’s ok.
Actually winter, when the sun is shining, and the UV is low is the perfect time for all-day outdoor adventures. Even overcast Australian days tend to be mild, so committing to getting outside through out the rest of the year, whatever the weather, and not relying on summer as a golden time for outdoor play, is the important first step.
But what do you actually do in summer when temperatures start rising?
First, you need to establish a new summer rhythm. In our family, we get up early to play but stay inside between 10 am and 2 pm, to avoid the worst of the heat. If you do that, there are then two modes of summer, the indoor summer and the outdoor summer, and within those modes, we can make some choices that will help us make the most of those hot days.
Here are my tips.
1. Get out early and stay out late.
If you can organise rest time and naps around the middle of the day then you can make the most of the cool mornings and evenings.
2. Stay safe.
Australia has one of the highest skin cancer rates in the world. So being sun safe is extremely important. Invest in good sun protection—hats, long sleeve shirts, a sunscreen you love, sunglasses and a beach umbrella or shelter. Store these items by the front door or in the car, so they’re always ready when you're heading out.
And don’t leave them at home on overcast days. UV levels can be high even when it doesn’t feel hot and sunny. The Cancer Council’s SunSmart app provides an hour by hour forecast of UV and gives advice as to when sun protection is needed.
3. Find some shade.
When choosing a place to play outside, prioritise shade. Parks and playgrounds differ greatly when it comes to how many trees and shady areas they have. This is the time of year to travel a little further so you can find one with the right amount.
Keep in mind that natural shade, provided by trees and vegetation, is far better than shade cloths, because plants transpire, and this can cool the air by as much as ten degrees. The playground surfaces also have an effect on the overall temperature of a space, manmade surfaces like soft fall and concrete are much hotter than mulch and grass.
4. Play with water.
There’s a reason most preschools have water trays or tables. All that running, jumping, lifting, tipping and splashing children do when playing with water is developing their gross and fine motor skills.
A beach or river is the best place for water play. But if you don’t have access to those natural spaces (and your council doesn’t have water restrictions), then water play can easily be replicated in a backyard or on a balcony. A tub of water, a couple of buckets or cups and a small watering can provides hours of fun.
Simple activities like running under the sprinkler or watering the garden are great ways to keep kids cool. And you can switch up the evening bath routine by using a tub in the backyard.
5. Pack a picnic.
Snacks that have a high water content--like watermelon, cucumber and berries--are great for kids in summer. Flasks can hold ice and will keep drinking water cold even on the hottest days. And here’s a tip, if you add some ice bricks to your picnic then wrap the whole thing in an old woollen jumper or blanket (100% wool works best) it will keep things ice cold. Wool is much more effective than plastic cooler bags. With this trick, I’ve even been able to take homemade ice cream to the beach and keep it frozen.
We often think of picnics being a lunchtime activity, but in summer, breakfast and dinner picnics are better. And remember you don’t always have to cook—sandwiches and smoothies are a perfect summer midweek meal.
Even with all those useful tips, in Australia, a significant chunk of our kid’s summer will still be spent indoors. But don’t lose heart, indoor time can still be active and fun.
6. Limit screen time.
While there’s nothing wrong with a bit of screen time every now and then, if we’re turning the TV on every afternoon when the weather forces our kids indoors, they are missing out on other experiences that are better for them.
Colouring, painting, playing with blocks, building things out of boxes, play dough and dress ups all provide better opportunities for learning and development. Inviting friends over to play is the simplest way to make indoor play more fun and exciting.
When it’s really hot, after children have been outside to play, they will need a rest. Nothing beats curling up under a fan and reading, but children’s podcasts and audiobooks are also a great substitute for television, and many are available for free through the ABC Kid’s Listen App or your local library.
8. Use someone else's air-conditioning.
We’ve all done it, a really hot day has sent us running to the local air-conditioned cinema or shopping centre. But remember libraries, art galleries and museums are also air-conditioned and many provide classes and activities for children throughout the year.
9. More water play.
Indoor swimming pools are a great option on a hot day because kids can stay active and cool at the same time. For older kids, indoor ice-rinks and rock climbing centres are a healthier choice than the movies, and can be a great option when the budget allows it.
Finally, in all this, it helps to remember that summer is a season. And it will pass. Go easy on yourself and don’t let the hot weather dampen your attempts to give your kids an active, outdoor childhood.
If you're looking for more inspiration check out this post about how one family plays outside throughout the year in Darwin, NT, where average monthly temperatures sit at around 30 degrees celsius.
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I like decluttering. I love the feeling of carting bag loads of items out of the house, destined for the charity shop.
I love the look of a cupboard that’s just been sorted, the way my belongings seem more beautiful and useful when they stand alone, uncluttered.
But there is one area I’ve found hard to sort—my kid's toys.
And I’m not alone.
Minimalist Facebook groups, blog posts and forums are crowded with questions from parents asking how to declutter toys. How to know which to keep and how many to get rid of.
There are good reasons to reduce our children’s toys and simplify their bedrooms and play spaces. Reasons that are supported by research.
Most famous is a 1990’s project by Rainer Strick and Elke Schubert implemented in a German Kindergarten, where toys were packed away for three months.
What happened to the preschoolers when all their toys were gone? Well, not much really. They quickly came up with other ways to play. They went outside and built dens in the school’s garden. They used tables and chairs to make cubbies and invented pretend worlds with their imaginations.
It turned out, less toys led to more creativity, more collaboration and more imaginary play.
A University of Toledo
The quality of children’s play in each scenario was measured against indicators. And what the study found was that the duration and depth of play was affected by the number of toys. With fewer toys allowing for more sustained periods of play.
At the end of the study, researchers asked parents how many toys were in their child’s environment, at home. ‘A lot’ was the answer given by some of the parents, with others guessing a number close to 90.
And this is where it gets hard. Most of us are overwhelmed by the number of toys our children have, and we don’t know where to start when it comes to simplifying.
What I’ve learnt is that even armed with the knowledge that fewer toys are better for play, If my kids are the main reasons for getting rid of our toys, my best efforts will quickly fail.
Because I know my children will play happily in a room bursting with toys.
And even when they are spilling out of baskets and jammed in cupboards, each toy I pick up has at some point been loved. Each item reminds me of a period of beautiful play.
And deep down I feel if I get rid of an item I’m denying my children the chance to experience that joy again.
Of course, I'm not. It’s the play that is special and play comes from within, it’s not from anything you can buy at a store.
But still, if I’m going to convince myself to declutter toys, I need a better reason.
And that reason is me.
So now before I start a cleanup, I ask myself a few questions.
What kind of life do I want?
Do I want to spend these precious years picking up, sorting and organising toys?
Do I want to feel angry and resentful each time I walk into my children’s rooms?
Do I want it to take hours to get the house tidy before a friend comes to play?
I don’t want my house to overwhelm me.
Instead, I want more time for afternoon walks, trips to the library, and pancakes on the weekend. More money for family adventures and to give to those who really need it.
And more space in our life for connection and joy.
And this realisation makes it easier.
I know the kids won’t notice the toys I take to the charity shop, but I will.
And that’s the best part.
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Two years ago I sat on the balcony of my parents holiday house with a notepad in hand. I had just made a decision that would change our lives forever.
Here’s what I had written on the notepad,
Take my children outside for three hours every day for a year.
My son was three and my daughter was one that day and were riding a scooter on the balcony beside me. All of us were watching the kookaburras swoop down from the scribbly gums trees.
I was nervous about setting out on such a big project when my children were so young.
I was worried about adding more to our already busy lives.
Today I wish I could send a message to that mother on the balcony. I would tell her not to worry.
Because I now know, when you shift your focus, when you make playing outside a priority for your kids, then magic happens.
And here is some of the magic, some of the benefits of shifting things around to make more time to go outside.
1. Happier Children
What young children want to do most is play. And when we let them, when we give them time to run wild, without interruption, they are happier.
2. Healthy Kids
My kids get sick less and bounce back quicker when they do. And playing outside also ensures they stay in a healthy weight range and develop the skills they need to succeed.
My kids run easily and have no trouble holding a pencil. They are strong and have a level of fitness that allows them to keep going, which has increased their perseverance and confidence.
3. Calmer Evenings
When my children are outside for hours, they use up all their excess energy, and our evenings are calmer. They will sit and play quietly, or colour at the kitchen table and the house feels peaceful and cosy.
4. Kids who eat their dinner
Most children snack less outside—they are too busy. And ‘hunger is the best seasoning,’ says author Karen Le Billon. Which is true.
When my kids come to the table hungry they are more willing to try new foods and more likely to eat everything put in front of them.
5. Less sibling rivalry and more beautiful play
Children argue less outdoors. A lot less.
Instead, they have incredible, sustained, imaginary play. And after a day of that kind of play they come inside beaming, and the best of friends.
6. Children who go to bed early
Children who ask to go to bed before their bed time—it seems like a work of fiction, but it’s not.
When children move for hours, when they don't sit immobile in front of screens, sleep comes naturally. And they don’t fight it.
7. A house that stays tidy
Outside my children spend hours transporting sand and water, mixing mud with sticks, and moving branches to build cubbies.
If we stay inside, they play in much the same way. They transport items from the drawers to the floor, they mix lego with crayons and build forts out of all the pillows in the house.
The kind of play that is ok outside, is chaos inside.
Walking into a tidy house at the end of a day of play is still my favourite thing about getting my kids outside.
8. More time together
Unplugging, walking away from the to-do list and going outside together has only added to our lives.
It’s meant more time sitting by a fire, and walking by the sea and afternoons in the garden as the sun sets. It’s meant more connection and less distraction.
9. A brighter life
Back on that very first morning when I decided to go outside for my kids. I had no idea the benefits would be for me too.
I had no idea about the way nature calms you. I didn't know my worries could get lost in the sky.
Now I make tea and drink it on the balcony, I go out to pick herbs for dinner and take a moment to stare up at the star-studded sky.
And I do it for myself. Because I know an outdoor life is a happier, healthier and more fulfilling one.
For my children and me.
When my son was two he was fussy.
Here is a complete list of the foods he would eat: milk, pasta, rice, bread, chicken nuggets and fish fingers, chips, watermelon, tiny teddies and wheat-bix.
We used to tell friends he was a milk-drinking vegan. But that was generous because he didn't eat plants, except the refined white variety.
We had done everything right. I handmade all his baby food, we ate meals together at the table, I always put a variety of things on his plate, and I didn't make special meals for him.
Although over time I started adding fish fingers on the side of our plates so that at least he would eat something.
Then in 2016 everything changed. We made a decision. We decided to stop shopping at the supermarket.
We were going to try eating only outdoor food. Food sold outside, grown outside, that had spent most of its life outside.
I would supplement the market hauls by shopping at a little bulk shop for grains, dried lentils, nuts and tea. But I stopped buying processed food altogether. And I honestly didn't know what my son would eat.
But something amazing happened. And it started with an apple.
‘Try this young chap,’ said Rob, leaning over his stand, handing Ezra a piece of apple. And to my surprise he did.
Then he tried carrot and cucumber from Pete’s organic stand. And he loved them. We started calling them ‘market snacks’. he would remind me in the car on the way, ‘Don’t forget to get me a carrot, Mum’ he would say.
The first time he tasted ham was after a farmer showed him pictures of his grandchildren riding on the back of his fat pigs.
And the first time he tried sausages was when I ordered a side of beef online. The farmers dropped it off at our place on a Friday night. Ezra was waiting up in his pyjamas for him, and the arrival of the white truck was more exciting than Santa Clause.
We stopped buying things in packets. I started cooking snacks from scratch. And because pikelets, crepes and flatbreads tasted so good hot from the pan, he decided fried potatoes and eggs would be nice too.
There was a world of difference between the market food we were eating and what had previously been available to us at the supermarket.
Many local farmers have a deep connection to nature and grow food in a way that regenerates rather than depletes the environment.
Some showed us patches of remnant bushland on their property they looked after, removing invasive species, and protecting new trees and plants from pests. We found dairy farmers who use returnable glass milk bottles, taking responsibility for the whole life cycle of their product.
We learnt about how small-scale farmers use compost and manure to cycle nutrients and fertilise their plants and paddocks. What we hadn't realised was that industrial agriculture has discarded this ancient zero-waste practice in favour of artificial fertilisers.
Artificial fertilisers that are made of petroleum, and are a non-renewable. Chemicals that the destroy the soil’s structure and contributes to erosion and land degradation. We learnt that runoff from these fertilisers, and the pesticides that often join them, pollute rivers and streams, eventually flowing out into the ocean.
The farmers we met used antibiotics sparingly, and many not at all. They didn't need too. They explained that animals who live outdoors and have plenty of space, clean water and natural food rarely get sick. Unlike intensively farmed chicken and pigs who spend their lives indoors and are fed antibiotics daily, to protect them from the diseases which otherwise would be rife in an environment where up to 60,000 hens are housed in a single shed.
Shopping at the farmers' markets changed the way we eat. We now eat less imported food and more of what’s in season, less chicken and more chickpeas. And we love it.
And I now have a five-year-old who eats feta, leek and spinach. Who loves real food and gets excited about a new stand at the markets or a favourite vegetable that has come back into season.
But his fussiness isn't gone completely. The other day in a shop a cashier offered him a jelly lolly. It was lime green.
‘I don’t think I want to try that.’ he said to me quietly.
‘That’s fine’ I said. ‘You don’t have to.’
It’s funny, I thought. How often do we blame our children for their fear of food. ‘It’s developmental’ we say, or ‘they are stubborn.’
But what if the problem is ours? As a society we have turned food into something unreal. We eat food that comes in boxes, is grown using poisonous chemicals, travels great distances and we source it from cold corridors, devoid of life.
In a supermarket, we have thousands of options and even adults don't understand the ingredients in much of what we eat. No wonder our children find it scary.
What I've learnt is if you want to change the way your toddler eats, there is really only one thing you need to do.
Shop for real food.
Food you can't find in the deep freezer of a giant chain store. Or in a packet at the back of a shelf.
Real food is out in the sunshine. Hanging over your neighbour’s fence, growing in a garden, in the back of a farmer's ute or on a trellis table at a market.
There are no self-service checkouts where you buy real food. You’ll have to talk to someone to get it. But it will come with a conversation. With a smile and a story, and sometimes even an invitation to play at the farm where it all began.
And that might be the best part of all.
Hannah and Tim both grew up in Sydney. They are both lawyers and neither of them went camping when they were kids. Then in 2017, they moved to Darwin as a family.
And it changed their lives.
I loved interviewing Hannah for this post and you will love it too. Hannah's boys are three and one, and also happen to be my nephews. Their wild outdoor adventures are sure to inspire you. Enjoy!
On life in Darwin
Darwin is a pretty extreme place. It’s the top end of Australia. The weather is full on. It’s roughly 33 degrees celsius all year, except when it’s storming, and then it drops to about 28 degrees.
Most of the time it feels hotter because of the extreme humidity. The storms are huge and dramatic. And cyclones are a real threat (we just experienced one). Darwin is a wild place.
It’s also very beautiful. There are heaps of birds and every night the sky fills with amazing colours at sunset.
On surviving the heat
At first, Darwin felt like a very difficult place to raise two small kids…so hot and sweaty all the time! And mid-morning visits to the park were just not a good option. But we are getting much better at picking the right moment and the right space for the weather. The play space has to be shaded or wet, preferably both! And mostly our outside play needs to be early morning or late afternoon.
But within those limits, we’ve still found some great things to do. Walking through rainforests, sliding down shady sand dunes, climbing over rocks to find little rock pools along the coast, riding bikes and scooters along the excellent coastal paths, swimming at the pool, and when we need to be close to home: running under the sprinkler, digging in the mud, playing with the hose, hooning around with trucks and buckets during a storm.
On outdoor food
Our standards are: chopped cucumber and carrot, wraps with peanut butter, and a bit of tropical fruit to sweeten the deal.
And always water-bottles!
We also have a backyard garden that mainly consists of native and tropical plants and shrubs, but we try our hand at a few herbs. The boys love to pick the basil and add it to dinner.
We knew when we moved to Darwin that we wanted to get out and explore the NT. We bought a tent, swag and a blow-up mattress at the start of the dry season, from there we have added bits and pieces as we saw the need, and as friends have shown us their tricks.
It’s season dependent. During the dry season last year (May-August), we got out quite a bit, about every second or third weekend. Last year we mainly explored Kakadu and Litchfield National Parks as weekend trips. Hoping to do more of that this year, together with some longer trips to the Red Centre and through the Kimberleys.
When we’re camping, we explore, play in the bush, watch the wildlife, find waterfalls, cook meals around the campfire, and swim if it’s safe (the croc-threat is real.) They boys love camping. To them, it’s a big adventure in which they get lots of Mum and Dad time, and lots of space to run and play.
Tim and I weren't campers before we moved to the Northern Territory. We hadn't camped as children or adults. It’s been a big learning experience. We’ve learnt that most difficult part is getting out the door. From there it’s great. Camping has been an awesome reminder of how refreshing it is to be in nature. We come back tired and dirty, but calm.
It’s also an exercise in living simply. We don’t take any toys with us, but so far we’ve not had any issues keeping the boys entertained. Some sticks for drawing and building, an amazing landscape, and adults to help them explore is all they need. Once we get out the door, it almost becomes an easier weekend experience than if we were at home.
On surviving the wet season
The rain during the wet season actually makes it a lot easier to be outside. It’s not like being down south where the rain makes you feel cold. Here, the rain is no colder than your bath! It’s actually a great time to be outside, run around, ride a bike etc. Obviously we get indoors if there’s thunder and lightning, or it’s torrential. But otherwise, we enjoy the rain.
Yes, sometimes it does feel like there are lots of things in Darwin out to get you. Stingers, crocodiles, cyclones, melioidosis (a soil-borne disease that comes to the surface after the rain), snakes… the list goes on! We try to be aware of the risks and make appropriate choices about where and when we play. For example, we do play a lot in puddles after the rain, but I make the kids wear gumboots (because of meliodosis). We do swim in natural water spots, but we choose spots that crocodiles cannot get to (e.g. up high and surrounded by rocks) and we get outside and run like crazy before the cyclone strikes!
On the benefits of outdoor play
Playing outside wears them out so they go to sleep easier. They are calmer when we do come inside. They don’t fight with each other so much (especially when we are camping and there are no toys to fight over). They are more creative. And they (and we) are more relaxed.
On new persectives
We’ve learnt respect for “country”, in all its beauty and harshness. Places like Kakadu, that are so un-touched, are a striking reminder of how beautiful and awe-inspiring the Australian country is – and what gifted custodians of the land Australia’s First People are.
And we’ve come to value wild, open, natural space a lot more than we did when we lived in the city.